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July 14, 2008: 1:48 am: adminMiscellaneous

One who speaks a lie hurts. Only truth gives life and peace. A lie always hurts. Even the smallest lie hurts. It hurts one to whom the lie has been spoken, and surely the person who speaks the lie. In today’s world lies are taken as way of life. Those who speak lies, bury morality so deep down somewhere, that no one can find it. These people with black hearts speak lies and sometimes they lie to the extent that it kills one who believes them.

Speaking a lie is betraying trust. To speak a falsehood to one who believes that truth is being spoken, is sinful. Society may not punish liars, but there is the law of karma, that punishes the liar. But what of the pain that a liar gives to one who trusted her/him?

Lies come in many types. Let us first try to find out about what kinds of liars are there on this earth. The first type is a small liar. A poor person, who speaks lies to survive in this brutal world. On the other end, we have liars who rule the nations. For their own power, they invent all kinds of lies and mislead people to believe the untruth.

The worst liars are those who lie to someone who has total trust in her/him. A child always takes the word of mother or father as the truth. The child has total trust in the words and takes them as the gospel truth. But as the child grows up, he/she realizes that his/her parent speak lies whenever they find it convenient. The child gets trained at this stage of life. Though the child learns about speaking truth in the text books, what he/she finds in the reality of role models, is different. And that reality is followed. This habit of speaking lies perpetuates in this fashion.

One more type of liar is the lover. Love depends on trust and nothing but total trust. When a lover speaks lies, that not only breaks the trust, but it also kills the hearts. It kills the man/woman to whom the lie is spoken. These lovers are smooth liars. They think that by speaking lies they will save the love, but they manage to destroy not only the love, but also their beloved. They poison the life of their beloved with lies and are nothing short of murderers and killers.

As I said before, society may not punish such liars, because society is not concerned with the depth of such relationships. But what of Karma, as the Indian philosophy calls it? That leaves no one. Only the law of karma gives the punishment to the liar. The liar gets punished by the law of karma. Who will save the person who trusted the liar? Only the mercy of God can save such a battered person.

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July 5, 2008: 11:10 pm: adminMiscellaneous

Lies And Illusions

What seems to be one way can turn out to be quite the opposite. Whatever you decide, someone else will disagree, and whatever view or posture is taken, there is an opposing one which will readily be taken up by another, insisting just as much as you that they are right and following a line of truth and accuracy.
“Prove it!” say the Scientists. “Convince me!” Says the Sceptic. “I don’t see it that way at all”, cry the Cynic and the debater.

A small child tells his first lie and gets away with it, creating his first effective illusion. By accurately representing something to be other than the way it is, he has made the discovery of illusion or lying. A whole new world has opened up before him. No longer he feels, does he need the old skills to explain, justify and convince honestly, he can create an illusion or lie instead. As time goes by he becomes more adept and sophisticated in his skills and his parents have to counter his illusions with an increasingly firm grasp on their own realities and perceptiveness.

An adult rebukes and exposes an untruth of another’s whilst firmly maintaining his own illusions in place… Politicians engage each other and the electorate in “Find me out if you can”, whilst perpetuating their own daily public illusions as the nation slowly disintegrates in a truth-less vacuum of public relations and tabloid guessing-game of “What’s going on?”

Lie versus lie. Trickery versus trickery. Illusion versus illusion. Simply put, lying is a deception, an alteration of time, place, form or event. A statement that something is different from the way it actually is. And we are all just too susceptible. Susceptible to lies, illusions and misrepresentations.

ILLUSION AND INNUMERACY

Crime is by far the greatest victim of innumeracy and misrepresentation. Surveys show that the public believes crime in Britain to be far worse than it actually is. Media publicity - especially “terror” clips such as are shown on ITV’s Crimestoppers - heightens fear and leads old people and women to alter their lives. Unable to grasp the significance of an incident, they assume the worst and retreat into fortress self.
The terrorist knows this well. He has long seen the media as his great ally in playing on irrational fears. Two bombs in quick succession constitute a “new offensive”. By being publicised, set alongside other similar crimes and credited with a “conspiracy”, this erects an edifice of horror in the public’s mind. Journeys are cancelled, jobs lost, chaos induced.

In Britain, deaths per head of the population from accidents and violence have steadily fallen in the last half of the century. Fear should, statistically, be falling too. It is not. The greatest risk of violence facing British adults is not from strangers, the IRA, or acts for God, but from those two familiars, the car and the spouse. The latter, “the loved one”, is specially lethal. The kitchen is the favourite venue for assault, knives and crockery being readily to hand. But we are not sufficiently aware of these facts to allow them to affect our lives. They are banal. We even pretend not to believe them.

FEAR

The Aids researcher exploits fear of unsafe sex to get more money for research. The police exploit fear of dark streets to boost manpower and pay. The terrorists know that another bomb creates fear and makes people fed up with government inability. Each wants our money or our support. A toothpaste is said to yield “200% fewer cavities”. A politician “Will not rest until the majority of our children are above average attainment”.
A story in Today declares “The number of women murdered by the men in their lives has jumped from a third to almost a half”.
Each relies on our inability to set the fear in a statistical framework.

An academic works out that the risk of a bomb on his plane is small but the risk of two bombs is infinitesimal: so he always carries a bomb with him in his case.

Television and films perpetuate the idea that any woman worthy of the name is five feet eight inches tall, slim, blonde with a perfect body and able to achieve full and multiple orgasms at will, anytime, anywhere, with anyone. With regard to the latter at least, surveys prove this is not the case with over 75% of women. Yet teenage girls are drawn in to the myth with resultant high stress levels.

INABILITY

Innumeracy can be maddeningly wasteful. Credit cards need no more than nine numbers in sequence, or even better, six letters (26 to the power of six is over 300 million). Most have an infuriating 15 or more.

We may laugh about damned lies and statistics - but somehow the statistics live on when the laughter has died.

We seem unable to master simple concepts of number, but how devastating is the impact of this failure on our ordinary lives.
Bluntly, we cannot count. A disability as serious as illiteracy, becomes, curiously, a matter of shame. Illiteracy we conceal.

If we cannot read or spell or quote the novels of Jane Austen and Dickens we keep a decent silence. But publicly boast of our innumeracy with pride. “I was hopeless at maths … no good asking me about fractions …. can barely count to 10, ha ha”.
Like primitive (and not-so-primitive) humans, we seek coincidence and parallels where none exist. We seem to need the reassurance of pseudo-sciences, of astrology, “analysis”, ley lines and tarot cards, to explain the odd or distressing.
We abuse mathematics itself with dotty numerology.

But what most concerns is our ignorance of probability theory, our inability to handle proportion and risk. We lose our capacity for judgment. We cannot filter information gained from newspapers and broadcasting and set it in context. Since rarity leads to publicity, rare events come to seem commonplace. We want to be diverted, excited, shocked. Some of us may read quality newspapers, but we all have tabloid minds.

DISTORTION

This leads to grotesque distortion in our response to events. Forty dead on the roads is not news. Forty dead on a boat is a public scandal and the government must act.

Smoking-related deaths in America are now the equivalent of three loaded jumbo jets crashing every day. The one statistic bores us, the other would appall us. (Much the same is true of drunken driving in Britain).

One famous aids death is splashed across the papers; stars appear on stage appealing for funds. Alzheimer’s disease or kidney failure blight the lives of far more people. In my view they are more deserving of charitable support. Sadly, they are less rare, less exotic, and have nothing to do with sex.

Only an innumerate could seriously believe that America’s Strategic Defence Initiative would ever do what television cartoons show it doing.

A true numerate would dispense with long-range weather prediction, lie-detector tests, Treasury Inflation forecasts and lotteries. The chances of error are too great, or the odds far too long. A numerate would also keep lawyers away from accident inquiries. Lawyers are trained to judge absolutes, guilt and innocence, rather than the subtle gradations of risk familiar to managers struggling with day-to-day problems.

The “rampant silliness” of pseudo science, the abuse of logic and the lack of clear thinking on political priorities are abundant.

We do not need more facts, but a better ability to grasp the ones we have.

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Stephen Kaye is a business owner and author from Devon, Uk. He is also the owner of http://www.kaymexdirect.co.uk

June 26, 2008: 4:16 pm: adminMiscellaneous

Say It Ain’t So, O

Is it my hyper sensitivity, my vivid imagination, or are our television icons and mega stars really going the way of Jerry Springer. I speak with some trepidation of Dr. Phil and the world’s favorite persona, Oprah. I am not a regular viewer, but I do see each show or snippets on occasion. I have been struck in recent weeks and months by the move to Jerry Springer’s stock in trade, cheating husbands, cheating wives, love triangles and all that jazz.

We do not yet have fisticuffs, floppy breasts, bare-chested men with a tie around their necks, women losing clothing, Dr. Phil beads or Oprah beads, but the slippery slope is there. When will we go from suburban chic to trailer trash? I think of the couple back for a second show with Dr. Phil. They received a second 15 minutes of fame by talking once more about the husband’s skirt chasing and screwing other women, also known as his continuing infidelity. We learn how he just can’t stop, can’t help himself. We see footage of him walking the neighbor-hood and meet his mistress. What possesses his wife to come back for more? To be cuckolded one more time? Throw the bum out and move on. No, move right and do what’s right! What’s next?

Even Oprah is finding that sex sells and has had several shows devoted to unfaithful men. To her credit, she is seemingly stunned, virtually incredulous, at a loss for words, and wondering why, why does this wife put up with it? Why does she still have him in her house under the same roof. Oprah is old fashioned enough to understand that infidelity is quite simply all or nothing. You cannot be a little unfaithful any more than you can be a little pregnant. One percent dishonesty and deceit is one hundred percent dishonesty, disloyalty, and trampling of sacred vows, sacred honor, a man’s word and integrity. Then again, long term integrity and intimacy and the pure joy of monogamy is hardly television material, so O and we are stuck with “celebrations” of perfidy.

We keep seeing more and more couples with issues of cheating and infidelity appearing on these “high level” shows. They make philanderers famous, perhaps even glamorous, thus virtually condoning and encouraging the behavior. Watch for a security detail, some female antagonists, wife and mistress, rolling on the floor, instead of sitting in a chair with Oprah or on a stool with Dr. Phil. It is only a matter of time as the genre deteriorates and finds itself targeting the lowest common denominator.

Peter Flierl is the author of a survival guide for husbands of women with breast cancer, PRAYER, LAUGHTER & BROCCOLI, and is a freelance writer and motivational speaker.

June 20, 2008: 10:46 pm: adminMiscellaneous

Why You Should Consider Dating Asian Women Online

In the comfort of your own home you can search for Asian women by using an Asian dating service.

This method is obviously very convenient. You can look over a catalogue of beauties in the comfort of your own home. You won’t see or deal with anyone face to face until very late in the process.

You’ll be able to dwell over their looks, know their age and occupation and interests before even saying hello.

I recommend a Dating Site if you are serious about finding a wife, you don’t want a prostitute and you feel intimidated about going to a foreign country where you’ve never been and trying to pick up and fall in love with the perfect woman in only two or three weeks.

Most of us are intimidated at the prospect of picking up women who talk English. Also, these companies are your best bet for finding a wife in an affluent country such as Japan, Korea or Taiwan.

The demand for Western men is not high among the women of these countries, so you can find them most efficiently by looking for the ones who do make it known they want Western husbands.

This should be obvious, but these companies are not
`selling’ brides. They act as the go-betweens which allow Asian women and Western men to correspond with each other. You write to the women who look good to you. The women write back to the men who look good to them. Neither are obligated to the other.

Some are anxious to get to Western countries by hook or crook. But some of the women advertising in these services come from relatively affluent countries which have much lower crime rates than the Western countries.

This is especially true of Japan and Korea. Many of them feel they’re risking their lives to stay here. They think of moving to Western countries as you’d think of going to Columbia South America.

Many of the women listed even from poor countries appear relatively affluent. Many have college educations, good jobs or their own businesses. One service boasted that they didn’t list women from rice paddies or slums.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women wanting to escape either rural or urban poverty through marriage, but the point is that you should not assume these women are golddiggers.

Many expect marriage to you will improve their financial security, I’m sure. But many probably also want a man who won’t beat them and spend all his money drinking, gambling and whoring.

Feminists claim Western men are exploiting these
women, but we’re famous in Asia for being nice to our wives.

Pseudo-feminists often attack these services. Their basic contention is that they supply Western cavemen with submissive sexual slaves they can beat up at will.

Ironically, many of these Asian women are seeking
Western men because Western men are well known
throughout Asia for treating women far better than many Asian men. Not all Asian men are cavemen either, of course, but many will demand at least some privileged perogatives.

Western feminist rhetoric on this subject is equivalent to Western unions campaigning against foreign-made products.

So much for international working class solidarity.
Western feminists may talk of international sisterhood between all women, but they want to lock their Third World, “low wage” sisters out of the market for Western husbands.

That’s to “protect” them, of course. That many foreign women want to marry an Western man just proves how backward they are.

Dao Jones, the founder of http://www.asian-girls-dating.com is connecting Asian women to Western men in a very unique and succesfull way.