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How many words do you say aloud every single day? Ten thousand? A hundred thousand? More?

And how many words do you say to yourself when you are talking to yourself - your conscious mind chatters on almost continuously asking questions, chattering idly, commenting on everything that is happening, worrying, and so on.

What most people don’t realise is the effect these words have on you.

Right now you are looking at a webpage - you can see the words in front of you right now can’t you?

They seem harmless enough don’t they?

Most of you will be aware that behind the webpage is something called HTML which is the programming language behind the words you see.

And so there is a secret language behind the words that you use - the connotations or implied meanings of these words.

Every word has a dictionary definition telling you what it means. However, every word also has an implied meaning - the hidden power behind the word.

A word like “try”, for example, means to give it go in the dictionary, but its connotation implies failure.

The word “should” implies obligation and reluctance.

The word “but” negates everything before it and causes the listener to only focus on what comes after the but.

Now, if you can understand these implied meanings of words, then you can start to use them in your every day life. If you can do this, it will give you the power to influence other people and to get them to work with you instead of against you.

A good example is if you were a manager and you had to criticise an employee for something they had done.

Most people would say, “Yeah John, you did a great job, but you really screwed up”.

Because of the word but in the sentence John’s mind erases the “you did a great job” part and only remembers “you really screwed up”. And as you can imagine, this doesn’t motivate John or make him feel very good.

Instead, if you were to say, “John, you screwed up that time, but you’ve always done a good job” it will make John feel much better. The “you screwed up that time” part of the sentence is erased by the but and leaves behind “you’ve always done a good job”. This will make John a more motivated employee.

This is just one of the many ways that you can use language to influence people, there are many more techniques you can learn. Remember one thing, what goes around comes around - if you use these techniques to harm, then expect karma to come back and bite you.

Jason E. Johns is a personal success coach specializing in helping you to set and achieve your goals. Discover more about how you can create your dream life through this innovative approach at his goal setting website, http://www.SuccessForGoalSetting.com

Speed Reading is one of those subjects that is spun to sound like a tonic that will solve all your educational ills and grow hair on your bald head for 2 easy payments of $19.99 each. At times it sounds like a medicine show.

Some write about how it’s a hoax. Others claim it’s the best thing since sliced bread.

Well, in my experience, of teaching adults and children for 24 years, it’s a little bit of both. It’s a hoax if you expect to learn to speed read, to comprehend and to keep the new skills you learn all in a mere16 minutes. It’s a hoax if you’re looking for a quick fix to a reading deficit, like dyslexia or ADD. And it’s a hoax if you are a “traditional” reader happy with your average reading speed and are not a visual learner.

It’s not a hoax if your learning style is visual, for example. There are three learning styles. They are visual, auditory, and kinesthetic. If you are a visual learner you will take to speed reading techniques with ease and will get a lot out of the effort you put into it. And it takes effort. It takes practice. It takes time to master and keep the skills you learn. And it’s not a hoax if you’re a young student between the ages of 8 and 12. As in most things young students grasp these skills easily and keep them far longer than us older folks.

Speed Reading is also great for strengthening your reading skills, in particular, fluency and comprehension. Many people that think of themselves as “slow readers,” under 200 words a minute, find that the skills they practice with speed reading help them read with more confidence. It allows them to move over the page and look for meaning without stopping at every word and hearing it in their heads clearly pronounced before they go on to the next word.

Speed Reading by nature forces your mind to move over the page and the author’s ideas with such speed that your mind doesn’t have time to become bored. If you have ADD like I do, it’s a godsend to speed read. Traditional reading is so boring I want to weep.

Can you double your reading speed in 16 minutes? Yes. But what’s the point of reading fast if you don’t know what you’ve read? And to do both you just might have to spend some time slowing down and getting used to this new skill. My advice is to take your time and to grow into higher speeds. Don’t rush. The average person reads at about 250 to 300 words a minute. If you work up to 700 wpm you are more than doubling your speed. Make sure your comprehension is at least 90%. Then increase your speed a little more until you reach your goal.

Is speed reading worth the trouble? Yes. Reading is a great tool and speed reading is a great master tool to get you reading and working on new ideas and projects inspired by others. It’s also a gift of adventure, romance, and philosophy. Getting to read more in this fast paced world will open a window to the wonders of the universe. Okay, maybe that’s too far out, but it is a great way to learn more about what you love and the work you do.

Someone once said, “If you read two new books a week you are way ahead of the competition and will develop into an expert in your field. No one else is reading two books a week on the subject.”

Speed reading is a master tool especially made for those that have a learning style that is non-linear, open to visual prompts, and ambitious. Download a speed reading program today and see if it fits your learning style.

About The Author

Magda Santos is an author, researcher, and learning specialist with over 23 years of experience teaching reading. She has a speed reading informational web site at http://www.speed-read-now.com.

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Why have monitored alarm systems?
The point of having a monitored security system is that if a break-in occurs, the right authorities can be notified and dispatched. Your business or home is protected 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This gives peace of mind knowing that your home or business is protected. You also have the use of the three panic buttons (police, fire & medical). And further, having a monitored alarm system can save you up to 20% off your home insurance.

Is the security system easy to use?
A security system is very easy to use; the installer will provide basic training on the system after installation. Usually a security system comes with a complete manual that will provide further information about the security system. Some companies offer a 14-day orientation program. And if you attend the orientation program, there will be no dispatch until the 14-day period is over. Also the customer care department from you installer will be more than happy to answer any questions you may have.

Is the system hard-wired or wireless?
You can get both hardwired and wireless equipment. It all depends on the location you are on. In a residential setting where the basement is finished and where there is no access to the ceiling, then it is possible to install a wireless system. If there is access to the basement ceiling then you need to install the hardwired system. Every home is different, and security consultants are trained to be able to present you the most suitable system and design for your location and your needs.

Can I use my system only when no one is home?
A security system can be designed in many ways to suit your way of life. You can pick from various levels of protection. For instance when you are not home you can have all the motion sensors and contacts activated. And if you are at home you can choose which zones are activated. Some peripherals such as smoke detectors must always be active, whether the system is armed or disarmed. Your security consultant can usually help you design a system that would best fit your needs and everyday life.

What happens if the burglar cuts my phone line?
Generally monitored alarm systems use the phone line to send a signal to the monitoring station. If the line is cut no one knows there is a break-in. The siren will still be audible though. If you want to have equipment that can handle the case where your phone line is cut, that is possible. Your security consultant can advise you the best course of action.

Huge amount of information about Home Protection on this website. See for your self.

What is the cumulative effect of just one hour a day over five years? Did you know that one hour each day equals 260 hours each year and that one hour each day equals 1300 hours over five years?

There is no excuse for you not to become an expert in your field because you can attain the equivalent of a PhD over the course of five years by developing yourself for just one hour each day. Let me put this into perspective, it only takes 2-3 years and 72 semester credit hours to get a PhD at a well known Ivy League school on the east coast. Here are twelve more ways to become an expert in your industry:

Use mornings and evenings to your advantage

Write articles for your industry’s professional magazines and journals

Develop a learning program

Learn something new about your field everyday

Read 4-5 books in your field every month

Host a free or paid talk about your topic for any of the following organizations:

Keep a learning journal

Host a teleconference, seminar, or forum

Become a coach to people in your industry

Become an author - write a book for the people in your industry

Clip newspaper and magazine articles for you to read later

Make your vehicle a university on wheels

Vernon Myers is the founder of IdeaMERGE.NET - Where Ideas and People Unite! - An online networking site devoted to connecting people who have ideas to people who have experience and advice to share.

Vernon is also the author of The Idea Journal - visit http://www.ideamerge.net/products to find out how to unleash your urge to create.

Visit Vernon’s blog, The Idea Pipeline, at http://www.ideapipeline.blogspot.com to discuss your ideas, dreams, and goals or to leave your comments.

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You may copy, forward or distribute this article if this copyright notice and full information for contacting Vernon Myers are included. Contact him at: http://www.ideamerge.net or email: info@ideamerge.net

When dating we all too often settle for someone that is not quite right. Why should we ever settle for something that isn’t quite right, especially when it comes to person that you hope to have an intimate relationship with? It may be ok to settle for a hamburger when you really want a steak, but when you’re dating; you’re talking about a relationship that is vital to you as a person. Why not define what you want before hand and then let potential dates match up to your standards?

One of the key components in dating and finding someone you want is first knowing what you want. For example think of the last time you really craved say something as simple as ice cream. You might have known the flavor you wanted, you might have known what type of ice cream you wanted. Let’s say your craving dark chocolate ice cream, and well someone offers you a vanilla pudding cup. Is that vanilla pudding cup going to cure that craving? It’s not likely. Would a chocolate pudding cup quench that hunger, most likely not?

The best thing you can do in finding the right person is knowing yourself, and what you really want. You need to take that time out to fully understand your desires before you can translate that into the relationships that you are looking for. For example, if you really want a person with a spiritual side, you better disclose that just like you would when you say what type of movies you like. If you fail to express this, you will either set yourself up for failure because that other person will not have those qualities, or that it’s likely you will be matched to the wrong person.

Do not think that I am advocating a super critical list that only allows for exacting standards. What I am advocating if for you to take time out and to learn from your past mistakes, and dig into why your past relationships failed. That does require some homework on your part. You need to take the time out to see where you looking for someone that was Christian, more loving, someone that was naturally into the arts. One thing is certain you can’t go into a relationship thinking you can change that other person, you can only change yourself.

So, why settle? You shouldn’t. Know yourself well enough to know what you really want out of a relationship. The dating stage should be fun, and exciting.

You should learn new things about that other person, and enjoy their company; it shouldn’t be about struggling to make this other person fit into our mold. One thing we can do is to take time out and look at our past relationships, and see what worked for us, and what didn’t, this may help you to decide what you are really looking for. The point to make clear is that you should never settle!

Stephanie Manley is the editor of http://www.copykat.com, she also writes http://romancelessons.blogspot.com, which are writings about romance and relationships.