Eight Characteristics that Give a Man the Absolute Best Chance
to Score with Women
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“Eight Characteristics that Give a Man the Absolute Best Chance
to Score With Women”
– by Mike Pilinski –
(c) 2003 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. — All Rights Reserved
http://www.highstatusmale.com
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For a man, successfully meeting women is all about how you ACT.
Period. Sure, you have to look halfway decent in the way you
dress, stay groomed and not stink like the chunk of two month
old polish sausage that I just found hiding in the back of my
refrigerator the other day… but the make-or-break factor is
and always will be the WORDS that come out of your mouth, and
the ATTITUDE that underlies it.
With that in mind, here’s eight points to load into your mental
backpack when you’re getting ready to go off to battle (which is
to say, every day of your life…)
1) Remain Focused on the Game — The art of attracting women is
all about knowing how to engage them with a natural curiosity
that shows you are at least a little bit interested in *their*
world (WARNING: too much = a slick phoney, so be careful). Look
for LifeLines (anything that she’s hinting she would be open to
talking about) and stay committed to working them. Forget about
yourself. Fade out your own ego. There’ll be plenty of time in
the future to gab about your own amazing life.
Remember this: you are NEVER desperately looking for an “ear to
bend” — you are always looking to draw HER out instead. Only
those lost souls with limited social contact hungrily crave the
attention of any person they can corner into listening to their
non-stop yabbering (I’m not trying to sound cruel here, just
honest).
Tune out the surrounding world and focus in on her as if you
were the only two people in the universe. If done properly
(without any subservient whimpering), this kind of attention is
flattering to her in an almost breathtakingly way.
2) Stay Calm — Above all else, act like you’re familiar with
this whole process. Seduction always begins as a low pressure
event. Place her at ease with your laid back demeanor, and let
her slowly begin to feed off of it. Be a lighthearted flirt.
Don’t be obvious — keep your interest vague so as to give
everyone an “out” to protect all egos involved (both yours and
hers). She will appreciate your tactful approach immensely, and
be impressed with your consideration and charm.
3) Demonstrate Charisma (Likability) — Sometime during the
course of the evening, offer a single simple compliment about
something unique to her style and presentation about herself. No
canned “You have such beautiful eyes…” compliments. Don’t go
overboard or make a big deal about ANY compliments that you pay
her. Make them seem casual and unplanned (a sudden pleasant
thought that just popped into your head and slipped out before
you could stop it…), then IMMEDIATELY move on to other topics.
Trust me, she heard it.
4) Touch Her To Seduce Her — Use any excuse you can dream up to
get a hand on her. Of course I mean only in the appropriate
places… an arm, shoulder, a hair brushback. Do not grope her
like a desperate fool. Touch is extremely important because it
demonstrates a sexual, “manly” interest in her and keeps you
away from the deadly “nice-guy-friend” category. Just make sure
you always keep it classy.
5) Risk Taking Is A Turn-On — Take a chance… a bold comment,
break the speed limit, whatever… Stay unpredictable and keep
her a little off balance. Men are powerful and at ease with
themselves , right? (see item #2…)
6) Be A Man, Not A Boy — Keep your apartment styled in a mature
fashion — avoid the frat-house look even though your football
buddies will probably declare you a big puss. A few REAL house
plants (the kind you actually have to water… yee-gads!), and
dark solids everywhere. A few *paintings* (don’t spend a
fortune, just hit the flea markets) instead of the Pam Anderson
poster. Got it? Also (very important) junk the “bunk” and get
yourself a double-sized bed (because you entertain female
company from time to time, that’s why) Time to bury the Star
Wars bed sheets too. Keep a few bottles of wine in stock and the
kind of goodies hiding around the house that a girl would like
(popcorn, cheese, ice cream, etc.) for when you want to veg out
in front of the tube and get her loosened up.
7) Nurture The Trance Of Romance — Take her out to see a mushy
chick flick by surprise… make a dinner and light a silly
candle on a “spontaneous” whim (nothing is spontaneous to a real
Seducer…). Do the things that trigger those romantic thoughts
and dreams that attract women naturally by pulling up all their
fuzziest memories. You’ll score major points for creativity!
Project The Attitude Of The High Status Male — You must
NEVER allow yourself to act like a fawning “nice guy”… but you
always want to SEEM like one (for an in-depth examination of
this all-important topic read this free article on my site…
http://www.highstatusmale.com/article_015.htm ). Imagine you
have a harem waiting for you back home, and you’re trying to
determine if she would make a nice new addition. I’m serious.
This is the kind of unspoken “winners” attitude that you must
keep burning in the far recesses of your mind at all times when
you’re dating women.
Assume that she likes you and will respond favorably to your
charm, but never assume you have a green light to start telling
fart jokes or break into your full blown comedy club routine.
Humor is all about the CLEVER observation of the absurdities of
everyday life — not the repeating of dumb jokes you read in
Hustler or doing your lame celebrity impressions… (”Do I make
you horny baby?”) That’s why they call it a SENSE of humor…
you need to base your wit on what you *sense* to be going on
around you, which often lies beneath the obvious.
So there you have it. Try a few of these attitude adjustments
for yourself — maybe just as an experiment if you can’t face
the idea of actually changing anything permanently about
yourself. Let me know what happens.
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