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Getting married (or beginning an intimate relationship) is, in a way, like starting a business you’ve always wanted to own or a university program you’ve always wanted to enter.

It may be relatively easy to begin but it is almost guaranteed to be very challenging to stay with it for the long-term and make it a success.

Which one do you think is harder? Being successful in your marriage? In your education? Or in your career?

They are all challenging to achieve for most of us. Yet they are also goals that most of us pursue or dream about. Not everybody wants to get married but most adults want to have some form of love relationship that feels good and is right for them. And the topics in this article apply to all intimate and significant relationships, not just marriages.

Indeed the drive to form and maintain a successful love relationship seems to be consistently strong in most adults. And I have observed this repeatedly in my work as individual and couples therapist.

At the same time our 50 % + divorce rate clearly communicates the message that making our love relationship last and flourish is difficult.

If we add to the high occurrences of divorce, the numerous unhappy marriages out there in which the partners feel hopelessly stuck my point becomes even more clear.

In my work as a mental health clinician I have seen marital and relationship discord often. And as a husband in an 11-year marriage I have felt the severe pains of marital crisis.

Along the way I have formed some wisdom on ways to understand, preserve, and improve your marriage. I teach these in a workshop called “All About Love” and will present them in this article. Also you can log onto my website at www.loveyoursoul.com for additional information.

Please keep in mind that most of the advice I am providing below apply and are suggested to both you and your partner even if I do not always mention him or her. However in the event that your significant other is not willing to follow this advice, I suggest that you do them on your own and invite your partner to join you as soon as possible.

1. EXPECT RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

All or most marriages run into small and large problems eventually. Some marital problems can be anticipated and avoided. Others cannot be foreseen and must be faced, worked through, and resolved by both partners.

Marital crisis is often very painful to go through. But that does not mean that the marriage should be ended.

Conflicts are often tests of the strength of the love relationship. These are tests that both partners must take and pass before the marriage can graduate to a higher level of mutual satisfaction.

Your marital problem should tell you that there are some things that you have not understood about your partner and vice versa. You may also have lost hope for the relationship and neglected each other’s needs.

There is work to be done by each of you. It will probably be hard work but it is also required work to help resolve your marital conflict and for each of you to grow personally.

2. OBTAIN OUTSIDE HELP

The pain and complexity of marital crisis often handicap the couples’ ability to resolve the problem on their own. It is important that you start receiving couples counseling soon after the crisis begins because the longer you wait the more difficult it will be to save the marriage.

You should treat the crisis as a relationship emergency and act right away to get all the help you need.

It is important that you find a therapist who has the experience, knowledge, and motivation to treat marital problems. Also you and your partner should collaborate in order to choose a therapist who seems right for treating your marriage.

Also there are many organizations that provide relationship services. You can locate them through the internet, the phone book, your church, etc. I like the services advertised on the websites: imagorelationships.com and embracemarriage.com.

In addition you can request help from mature friends or relatives that you trust. Their help can be valuable and may include sharing their own experiences with marital problems, listening to you, or offering other support.

3. UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

You must work hard to understand and change what is bothering your partner in the relationship. Chances are that even though your partner loves you there are significant and persistent problems he or she sees in you. And your partner may have lost hope for the relationship because of them.

You need to better understand your partner’s perception of these problems. It may be that your partner has a lot of dislike or fear for a certain problem. This fear was probably developed before you knew each other.

The persistence of these problems in you can be severely disappointing your partner even if they do not seem to be major issues to you.

For example your partner may have a large need for your time and affection because he/she was severely deprived of this in childhood and past relationships.

Your partner could be feeling hurt and disappointed in the relationship because this need has been misunderstood or neglected. The solution in this case would be for you (and your spouse) to become aware of the high importance of regular affection for him/her and to make sure the marriage takes care of this need.

If you identify these types of problems and work hard to resolve them, your loved one is likely to feel better about the relationship.

As usual this works both ways and you can ask your partner to do the same for you.

4. PRAY FOR THE MARRIAGE

Spirituality and regular prayer are powerful ways that can help you and your spouse heal your damaged relationship. It is important that you pray for your partner as well as for yourself. You can also ask God to help and heal your marriage.

There is a lot of variety and choice of spiritual practices. I suggest that you find and practice one that fits with your beliefs and feels right for you.

Spiritual strength could give you both the patience, peace of mind, understanding, love, and forgiveness that is often necessary to work your way out of marital trouble.

5. TOLERATE THE EMOTIONAL PAIN

Marital crises often involve severe emotional pain for both partners. You or your spouse may feel very depressed, angry, terrified, confused, hopeless, etc.

Many people end their marriages because they do not want to tolerate these pains or because they believe that the marital problems will never go away.

But the old saying: “No Pain, No Gain” often holds true for marriages and most marital problems can be solved if both partners are willing to put in the necessary work.

Counseling, spiritual practice, and if needed, medication can help relieve some of your emotional pain. But often much of the pain brought on by marital crisis must be tolerated until the marital wounds are healed.

You and your partner need to understand and accept that you are wounded emotionally and that the healing process may be slow and gradual.

Not all marriages or relationships deserve to be saved. And not all emotional pain associated with a relationship should be tolerated to preserve it.

Extreme situations for example when one partner is regularly physically abusing the other and is refusing to seek professional help may require divorce or a break-up to solve the problem.

But emotional injury caused by typical marital conflicts can often be treated and healed. However this process typically involves emotional pain and your ability to tolerate and live with this pain is a valuable skill.

I often tell my clients “Happiness is on the other side of the pain”.

In order to better understand and save your marriage you must work your way through and past the body of emotional pain that is blocking your way to marital happiness.

And if you do this work successfully your marriage will arrive at a new, higher grounds, where you can both feel free of pain and full of relationship joy, love, and appreciation of the meaning of marriage.

About The Author

Kaveh Nayeri is a Relationship Coach and Author with a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and 18 years of related experience. Kaveh guides love relationships (with your partner or self) away from pain toward healing, love, and peace. Kaveh can be reached at 858-459-8695 for phone coaching. Visit http://www.loveyoursoul.com for a complete listing of coaching services and teleclasses. Kaveh can also be reached by email at knayeri@msn.com

It’s often hard to find someone in your local parish or church to spend the rest of your life with. Especially for young people, who have a very hard time finding someone of their age group in the local church or synagogue. Road trips and chaperoned revivals are a good way to meet people who are interested in the same religion you are, but more and more people are turning to the internet for help in finding the love of their lives.

One answer to this dilemma is to join a singles group via the internet based on your religious upbringing, an online dating service geared toward the religious background of its users.

Christian online dating became popular in the mid eighties, when online dating web sites first hit cyberspace. Christian online dating services promised the users that they would find like-minded people and all their dreams would come true. For some people I’m sure this happened, but you can never be sure who you are talking to online. This is true of course for any online chat room, whether it be Jewish online dating or the newer catholic online dating services for young people.

The bottom line for dating online is simple for people of religion. To feel safe and be sure that the person you’ve met online is righteous, plan your first date to meet at church. It’s the smart thing to do, with cyber stalking and misrepresentation running amok on the internet. Plan your first few dates to be at church, especially if you’ve met someone online who wants to come meet you from another city or state. A nice church potluck after service is a great, safe way to tell if this person is truly the person of your dreams.

The internet is a fine way to meet people, if a few precautions are taken. Meet the person after several chats, not just one or two, and meet them in a public place. Stay in a group of people the first few times, and let them know up front why. Honesty in relationships is important and if they are sincere, they will understand your need for caution.

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The world of physics is a strange world indeed.

At the end of the nineteenth century it was found that a negatively charged metal plate would discharge when illuminated, but a positively charged one would not.

Then it was found by some researchers that NO metal plate would discharge.

Other researchers found that red light had no effect, but blue discharged the plate.

The “photoelectric effect” was a mess.

Max Planck discovered that light consisted of particles. And each particle (or quantum) had an energy that could be defined as Joules.

The science was very simple. Take the frequency of that light particle, multiply by Planck’s constant, and you find how many Joules of energy are in that particle.

You could even pretend that this light particle collided with an electric particle - the electron. If so, it would transfer its energy to that electron in just the same way as the chemistry of a battery energises electrons.

So we could define the near infra-red as 1.7 electron volts, and at the other end of the spectrum ultra-violet begins at 3.2.

For this he got the Nobel prize.

With the electron-voltages of light being now defined, Einstein decided to tackle the problem of the metal plate. Why was it that only NEGATIVE electricity would be discharged? Because there is only one kind of “charge-carrier”. Or so it seemed at the time.

Why did some researchers find that NO metal plate would discharge? Because the voltages are LOW. Even the slightest film of grease or dirt could INSULATE against less than 3.2 volts.

And why did blue light work when red did not? The answer lay in Planck’s electron voltages.

Einstein discovered that the effect varied with the TYPE of metal used for that plate. Each element, sodium, potassium, iron, copper, the noble metals such as platinum &c., had a unique voltage.

That voltage represented the energy that had to be present in the light in order to free the electrons.

That voltage became known as the WORK FUNCTION.

Knowing this, scientists began to research the forces that hold atoms together. In the technical literature, Einstein’s name was cited so often that the Nobel Prize Committee could not ignore it.

So Einstein won the Nobel Prize.

It is true that further researches modified the simple model that scientists had used. For example, the particle model of Planck suggested that an ultra-violet “PHOTON” could travel for thousands of millions of years through space, retaining its 3.2 eV energy - and NEVER become two photons at 1.6 eV each.

This is the LAW OF CONSERVATION OF MATTER.

But after that huge journey, it needs only for that photon to hit a suitable crystal and it does indeed divide. You get TWO photons for the price of ONE. This is only possible if the photon consists of NOTHING.

So the wave model of light began to supervene. Waves consist of nothing but a pattern. And questions were asked as to whether there is a SUBSTANCE in which the waves are formed. Does space consist of aether?

In some of my work I have reintroduced the concept of aether, but not as a SUBSTANCE. To me, there is a need for a grid of lines in space, for navigation. As on a map there is latitude and longitude (which are not substances), so in space we need a kind of latitude, longitude and altitude. Without that we get lost.

But the question of whether light is particles or waves was never resolved. Sometimes it behaves as one, and sometimes as the other.

Again, the concept that there is only one kind of charge-carrier has been overthrown. In solids there can be positive, negative or both.

A conductor conducts both charge-carriers. A vacuum conducts only the negative ones. So a vacuum is an N-TYPE SEMICONDUCTOR.

The discovery of semiconductors led to huge advances in the field of electronics. There are P-TYPE as well as N-TYPE semiconductors, and a remarkable symmetry of behaviour can be seen between them.

So light is like a particle in the VACUUM STATE, and shows the properties of a wave in the SOLID STATE.

Bizarre!

My interest in these things is not amusement alone. Wherever profound discoveries are made, profound new benefits to Mankind become possible.

If a metal is used for that photocell plate, that needs 1.5 volts, and infra-red shines upon it at 1.7 eV, electrons emerge at 0.2 volts.

If the light is at 2.5 eV, the “secondary electrons” will have 1 volt of charge. If the light is blue, at 3 volts, the elctrons will have 1.5 volts. It is a simple subtraction process. That is Einstein’s photoelectric effect.

So with a field plate charged to minus 0.2 volts, we can push back the “infra-red electrons”. With minus 1 volt on the plate, we can push back the yellow ones. With minus 1.5 volts, we can push back even the blue electrons.

Infra-red electrons? Yellow electrons? Blue electrons? In reality, these things are not their colours but their speeds. For each electron retains the energy that was left over after the Einstein Work-Function was subtracted from the photon.

This makes the colour sensitivity of a digital image-sensor PROGRAMMABLE. Instead of having red, green and blue filters on an image sensor, we can have NO FILTERS.

Digital techniques are used to analyse the colour of the image. The benefits are enormous.

For example, we live in a world of daylight and artificial light. Daylight is rich in blue, tungsten light is rich in red. When the colour balance of the device depends not upon chemical filters with their fixed colours, but upon software, the device can better adapt to the lighting.

You can read about this new concept in CCD image sensor design at http://www.wehner.org/electro/einstein/ . Seven related inventions are also described, to help the design along.

Charles Douglas Wehner

About the Author

Born in 1944, Charles Douglas Wehner was a factory manager, design engineer and technical author in photoelectrics.

Internet and Networks

Computer network is a group of computers linked together, so that they can share information and resources. Internet is “network of networks”. It can also be described as information highway. It is the world’s largest network of computers. The networks are related to academics, research, government and include users of all types of profiles i.e., corporate, individuals, professionals, children, schools, institutes etc. It may be remembered that computer is not located at a single site, not controlled by any central authority. The networking in the internet are not directly connected but interconnected. The ability to graphically access internet resources throughout the web is the primary reason for the phenomenal growth of the internet. It may be noted that WWW is similar to Gopher but instead of being menu driven, it is hypertext based. Most of the problems of WWW are solved through hypertext, which is become generation hypertext.

Client and Server:

The term client refers to the application involved in a communication that actively initiates the contact and the term server refers to the application that passively waits for contact.

Characteristics of clients software:

An application program that performs computations locally

is needed temporarily for remote access

is invoked directly by a user

executes only for one session

runs locally on users computer

can access multiple services

doesn’t require special hardware.

Characteristics of server software:

is invoked automatically at the time of booting

runs on a shared computer

accepts requests from clients

require special hardware and operating systems

can handle multiple clients at the same time.

Host and Terminals:

Host:

A host is a main computer that has all the programs, data and the processing elements. It has its own method of connection.

A terminal may connect to the host and may or may not have the store and forward capabilities.

To connect computers in a network, cables, connector cards and softwares are needed.

TCP/IP:
TCP (Transmission Control Protocol) and IP (Internet Protocol) are the two types of protocol. A protocol is defined as a set of standard rules that lets communication between computers take place. The first one TCP (Transmission Control Protocol) is a reliable, connection –oriented protocol that allows stream of bytes from the sender to be delivered to the receiver without error. This is the protocol of the transport layer.

The internet layer defines a protocol called IP (Internet Protocol) to specify an official packet format. Its job is to deliver IP packets to the destination.

The TCP/IP model has five layers:

Application Transport

Network Data link

Physical

Some Protocols and Networks in TCP/IP model

WWW: World Wide Web

WWW is a worldwide hypermedia system. It is the most important feature of the internet. This is commonly called web and is the main reason of popularity of the internet. WWW is a system of internet servers responsible for supporting specially formatted pages and documents. The document follow HTML and support links to the other documents, graphics, audio and videos.

All the internet servers are not essentially the part of WWW.
The internet and worldwide web are redefining the global community. Businesses have found a new venue for two way communication with customers in the web site. Not only can businesses advertise, but they also can provide much more information that customers, students and investors usually wouldn’t be able to obtain easily. WWW is a graphical representation of information on internet.

Hypertext:

The web consist of client and server computers that are capable of handling multimedia documents. The client computers use browser software (like Internet Explorer or Netscape Navigator) to view documents. WWW uses HTTP (Hypertext Transfer Protocol) as its underlying protocol. HTTP defines the way messages are formatted and transmitted. HTTP is a stateless protocol. The commands are executed without caring for the previous commands. HTML is an acronym for Hypertext Markup Language. This is the language used to create www pages. The hypertext objects refer to the text and object linked to each other.

URL (Uniform Resource Locator):

URL is an addressing system that is used by WWW as a standard system for specifying a particular site or file on web. It combines information about the type of protocol being used, the address of the site where the resource is located, the sub-directory location and name of the file.

For each web page a URL is specified. This gives a worldwide name of the page.

A URL has three parts

- the scheme (protocol)

- domain name server (DNS) where the page is located

- the filename for the page

When the URL is given, the browser searches for the host name using the DNS and then establishes the connection with the host. The filename is then send over the connection using the protocol specified. The host then returns the page.

The URL scheme is open-ended and can be used for other protocols besides being used for web pages.

Other protocols used in URLs are

- HTTP

- FTP

- News

- GOPHER

- File – for files at local end

- Telnet

- mailto

By: Lalit Bansal

In my research around the net it amazes me how many different products online are out there that are complete junk. The thing that is scary to me is that people are buying them every day!

Make a million dollars at home just by pushing a button! You can grow a new head of hair in a few days with my magic product! The ultimate guide to getting laid! Lose 10 pounds in 7 days!

Give me a break.

The anonymity of the internet is attracting a whole new group of snake oil salesmen (and women) who are feeding on our weaknesses mainly vanity and greed. Who doesn’t want to earn a lot of money by doing nothing? Who would not be flattered if they were surrounded by members of the opposite sex who lusted after them? Who would not like to lose 10 pounds in a week with no dieting or exercise? Not many people in today’s society.

Don’t get me wrong there are many useful programs and products online that can help you to do many things including lose weight, make money, etc. However, there are no quick fixes. Keep in mind that if you are to truly succeed with any of those programs you will need to end up putting some work into it.

My advice to you is to do your research. If a product seems too good to be true it most likely is. Many of the internet marketers out there are interested in one thing and one thing only, the sale. After that they are done. Make sure that whatever you are looking at has some sort of guarantee and if the product turns out to not be what you were hoping RETURN IT! Help make the internet a better place by not letting the charlatans get away with scam products.

If you have questions on an item try putting the name of the product in Google and see if there are any reviews on it. Many times people will post their comments and reviews in different forums and blogs which could help you to make a decision on a product.

Kevin Anderson researches products that are sold on the web and gives his comments are reviews on them. He publishes his findings at http://www.spedinc.com and on his blog at http://www.clickbankcatalog.blogspot.com.

Dating online can be great fun, stimulating and exciting. So let’s first get it into perspective. Some of us just like to have fun but are sick of the singles bars and other similar nite spots that are the last resort for finding a decent partner or lover. They often result in the wrong person even if you are lucky enough to meet someone. Or, you may have once upon a time met someone that ‘fitted the bill’ but over time this has proved not to be the case any longer, so…….long story short, you are now once again looking for a better fit. You might be just plain lonely or recently dumped by that someone who promised to be there forever. If you’re senior in years, you may just be seeking a companion or someone who has similar interests. These days, it’s quite likely that you are someone who’s busy most of the time and don’t have the time to go galavanting around the place looking for a date and attending dinner parties with the hope that your friends have selected a decent blind date on your behalf.

Whatever your reason, online dating can definitely help make it happen much sooner than many of the other tedious activities which most of us have experienced at some stage. Of course, you are also able to do this late at night (24/7) in your ‘jim jams’ when you have the time or better still, the inclination.

If you’ve found what you believe to be a quality site, and it has a large enough data base to support your searches, then you’re half way there. While I’m on it, you would be best to register with 2 or 3 dating sites so that you can spread you options that much further.

This brings us to an extremely important consideration and the most imperative part of the process – Your Safety!

I won’t pretend to have all the answers, but as much as Internet dating sites have proven time after time that they ‘deliver the goods’, someone nasty or let me say unscrupulous turns up. These loathsome characters can be easily avoided simply by following these rules and proceeding with caution. Follow these guidelines and you will enjoy what could be the beginning of a wonderful relationship(s) without taking any risks.

If you’re smart, these point will become your checklist and eventually a habit.

- Remain anonymous – do not reveal your real identity, email address, home address, telephone numbers, your birthday or indeed, your place of work during your early days of communication

- Don’t be dissuaded from the above point

- If you are operating from home check your ISP server to ensure your profile is not revealing more than you’d like.

- Use alternative email services for dating(I have listed FREE services at the bottom of this page).

- Take your time in your first telephone discussions – ask questions (nicely) remembering that they are probably in the same position as you.

- When you do decide to meet for the first time, make sure it’s in a public place ie. Coffee shop etc. Do not meet at each others home or anywhere secluded or remote. Take a mobile with you and more importantly, tell a friend or relation where you are going. - Some people even have a friend turn up and sit at another table for comfort – without anyone else knowing of course.

- Here’s the last point – stick to all the above points no matter what!

Here are some sites for free email services to help you remain anonymous;

Atlink.com
Bigfoot.com
Email4life.com
Netforward.com
Netaddress.com
Mailzone.com
Hotmail.com

On-line dating while following these rules and can lead you to great friendships, lovers and often marriage.

Enjoy!

Publisher & Author: Roy Barker. Roys expertise comes from a lengthy career in the counselling, human resources and corporate arena. Roy has a dating site review service at http://www.datingxlence.com